Divorce Rates on the Decline

Tuesday Jan 24, 2017 Divorce

According to Google, 50% of all marriages end in Divorce and for the last 40 years or so that statistic has been more or less true, however 2016 calculated an increase in marriages and a 23% decline [compared from 2003 – 2012] of divorces. So what exactly has been responsible for this decline and new found respect for the sanity of marriage?

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  1. Legalisation of same sex marriage – with the legalisation of civil partnerships a sharp increase of same sex marriage sparked the increase in the holy union. Relationships that had for years been held back from taking those natural next steps were released and as a result more unions were formalised.
  2. Immigration - legitimate marriages to persons subject to immigration control became easier following the abolition of the Certificate of Approval Scheme in May 2011
  3. Pre-nuptial agreements – there has been an increase in the popularity of such agreements despite not yet being as legally binding and as relied upon by our US counter parts. Case law however is ever assisting and the reliability on PNA is becoming stronger by the day. With such protection people are feeling more secure and therefore more inclined to take that next legal step in their relationship.
  4. Cultural developments – the UK is feeling less pressured than ever before to get married and have children before 30. With the average age for women to get married being 34 and 36 for men. Waiting slightly longer than what would have previously been considered the ‘norm’ is allowing for a more educated, stable, worldly individual to enter the contractual obligations of a marriage, less inclined to see it end in the demise of a divorce.

How can you try and ensure that your impending marriage doesn’t end up as a divorce statistic?

  • If culturally viable, try living with your partner before marriage. The ‘try before you buy’ term has never fitted quite as well as in this situation. It is said that the first year of marriage is the hardest. Living with the companion you have romanticised for however many years and realising they’re moody in the mornings, they can’t cook and enjoy leaving the toilet seat up can cause quite the friction. By living with your partner, you can establish your boundaries and thresholds, what are your deal breakers? Maybe you have deal breakers you didn’t even know about? Learn about them now and either ride the wake of the issues or end the relationship before you walk down that aisle.
  • Ensure that you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to finances. Money is the number 1 root cause for separation because parties cannot agree what to spend their money on. Make sure that you have similar thoughts on finances. If you don’t, no fear, just communicate how you can work around that.
  • Do not enter your marriage in debt because of the wedding. Remember you’re getting married to create a marriage not because you want a party. There is nothing wrong with having an intimate wedding with hopes of a larger celebration later in your lives when you’re more financially secure.